Life Transitions Therapy

Life transitions therapy can help to navigate the inevitable changes of life. No matter how much we may try to hold onto the stability of a state of familiarity, it’s impossible not to notice how much everything around us continues to change with the passing of time.

Whether we are reminded by the aging of our bodies or the change of the seasons, the one guarantee of life is movement and change- whether we are ready for it or not.

Do you ever wish it wasn’t so hard for you to deal with change? You are not alone. Still, changes are difficult to manage because they involve loss: the loss of the familiar. Our brains naturally want to keep us in states of predictability, so we may experience emotional discomfort in response to big shifts.

We all go through many transitions throughout our lives, and they can cause significant changes to the daily life and routine and to our broader outlook on the meaning of our lives.

This post will highlight what you can expect from working with a professional to guide you through major life transitions. For individual support, inquire about working directly with an anxiety therapist.

The only constant in life is change.
Heraclitus

Change and transitions are a natural part of life. Yet, significant changes can leave us feeling lost, unsettled, overwhelmed, and out of control. They can leave us feeling like we lost not only the past, but also our idea of what the future would have or could have held.

It can be natural to be uncomfortable with change. Whether change is pushing you into the unknown or pulling you out of more nostalgic times, noticing the movement of time can pull us out of our comfort zone and face us with existential questions.

The inability to deal with change can lead to anxiety, depression, and sleep issues. These all can lead to physical health or substance abuse issues. Ineffective coping also has been linked to implications on relationships and people being stuck in their lives.

A therapist with a systemic mindset (I.e. they examine the broader context of your life) can help you process and understand the impact of significant transitions.

A life transition therapist uses the frameworks below of personal growth to manage stress and anxiety associated with significant life changes.

Phase Of Life Milestones

From a mental health perspective, there are key milestones to navigate in life. These markers reflect both the natural developmental changes of life and more specific situational transitions. Missing these milestones can leave people with emotional and mental distress.

An ego psychologist named Erik Erikson coined stages of development that individuals move through throughout the lifetime. His stages start in infancy and move through eight stages into older adulthood, describing key developmental milestones we must meet in order to move into the next stage in a healthy, effective way.

Notably, each stage involves some sort of conflict that must be resolved. The individual resolution of this conflict serves as an important turning point in their psychological development.

What Happens in a Life Transition Therapy

Here is what you can expect from life transitions therapy.

Understand Where You Are

Primarily, a therapist can help you to take an intentional pause. This allows you to observe your individual and family history, identifying places you may have been stuck in development in the past.

Life changes therapy can also help you to explore more broadly what stage of development you are in. This will help you to clarify the key milestones to consider as you navigate the change you are facing.

With a clarified narrative about your own story, the changes you have already overcome and what you are facing now, your therapist can help you lay the groundwork for healing and progress.

Explore Past Patterns and Expectations

When things change and significant emotions are brought up, we may be driven by ways that we’ve handled change in the past. This can lead to beliefs about whether things “should” change that leave us feeling stuck and down on ourselves.

For example, you may have learned in your family that being dependable and a certain level of achievement are expected qualities. Then, when you decide to leave a job that is not working for you, in addition to coping with life transitions itself, you are left feeling ashamed without knowing why.

Therapy helps identify thoughts feelings and responses to transition so that beliefs can be challenged (cognitive behavioral therapy) and updated where necessary.

Clarify Goals and Values

Clarification of your goals and values is always a key step of treatment. However, when working with life transitions, focusing and developing your values will help you determine whether you are on the path you want to be on and how you can prioritize making decision that will keep you moving in the direction you want to go.

Goals are the objectives you’d like to achieve in therapy and in your life. Values are the core tenants by which you strive to live your life. Clarifying your values will give you clarity as you make decisions and deal with periods of transformation.

Process Emotions

Changes in life can present a complex set of emotions and lead to feelings of anxiety and depression. You may notice excitement, joy, sadness, anxiety, and guilt. Often, transitions come with a certain type of grief and having to accept the end of a certain part of your life.

You also may feel confused by feeling conflicting emotions at the same time. A therapist will provide you a nonjudgmental space to explore the complexity of your experience, while guiding you to understand, process, and integrate your emotional experience.

Develop Skills to Support You in Future Coping

As we’ve established, change is constant. Life transitions therapy will give you a space to feel, to explore, to make sense of your situation, and to get you clear on the behaviors you’d like to take while you are managing change.

Life transitions therapy will also support you in developing coping strategies and coping mechanisms. These coping skills help regulate your emotions and focus on value driven action in the future as you face inevitable future periods of change and uncertainty.

Create New Meaning or Identity

We all need a sense of meaning and purpose in our lives. Something that gives our time on earth a sense of purpose and connection to something greater than ourselves. Importantly, these places of meaning do not need to remain constant over the long term through each phase of life.

As we are navigating life changes, we may need to spend time considering if our purpose and sense of identity has changed. We create new meaning by reexamining where we feel like we are doing what we are meant to be doing during each part of life.

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Life Transitions Therapy • Coping Through The Changes of Life